Thursday, June 28, 2012

Verbal Abuse Is A Form Of Cursing, Black Magic

I've been led to write about this, partly because it's a topic that hits home for me as I've experienced it practically all through my life with certain people. It's time the truth be made known that when someone verbally abuses you that it's not just words. Those words are said with power and it's a form of black magic. The abusers have no clue to the evil they do and they tend to demonize the victim and make them a scapegoat for their sins.

Now, I don't want to share my life history and I definitely don't want a pity party, but I grew up hearing how ugly, fat, and stupid I was on a daily basis. I was routinely told how happy certain people's lives would be if I would just kill myself. To this day I have these same abusers telling people that I'm a Satanist and that I deserve to die a horrible death. I have certainly people who have told me to my face that they wished I would get cancer and die.
 
If you are the victim of verbal abuse you need to view it for what it is, a black magic curse thrown at you and you need to take steps to take care of the matter. The first step is to do reversing work. It's black magic so you can send it right back to the abusers. The second step is to learn to direct the negative energy sent to you and twist it around and use it to prosper your life. If by chance this doesn't clear things up then the last resort is to banish that person from your life and cut off all ties with them.

If a victim does not take steps to counteract this black magic then with time the victim will begin to internalize the abuse and will begin to believe it. You tell a person enough times that they won't amount to anything and then it will come true because that person will begin to believe it. If you have fallen victim to internalizing this abuse you need to do your cut and clear work to rid yourself of it. You need to counteract it with positive self-talk and focus on yourself.

16 comments:

  1. I'm so glad you said this and I completely agree with you! Last year, I joined a dating site and was told by more than a few people that I was too ugly to live and that I should kill myself.

    Hey universe, I know I'm gay and I know I'm overweight...no need to constantly remind me. Ok?

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    1. I'm so sad to hear that. I don't know what it is about being online but people will be far ruder and far cruel online than they would in person. It's not like anyone is forcing them to date you! Geeze!

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    2. When I was younger I was extremely shy and "sensitive" but I am so thankful to GOD that my life HAS been hard because I've developed a thick skin and coping skills. We have seen far too many times how bullying has driven our young people to kill themselves. My heart goes out to anyone who hasn't learned to pick them self up, shake the dust off their feet and walk away.

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  2. Funny that this is another thing they don't talk about online. With the people around me it's a little different I guess in that... well, when I've had such problems it didn't take much other than speaking back to them. Sometimes you need to in order for them to get that what they're doing is wrong. However, I don't think that works so well on those who don't understand this stuff. Meaning... if I tell you that your words are "of the devil" lol, and not to have my name in your mouth ... you get what I'm saying. And you *know* to either detour or there might be a problem.

    Yes, people do speak stuff on other people. And you will def hear a lot of older folks say "Don't say that!" if you were to say "Oh, he's always getting in trouble" or "he's always acting up". But definitely, I've had to tell a couple of people to keep my name out of their mouths and not to speak stuff on me. But luckily... they understood what I meant and that was all that was needed. But it's not always just the words themselves, but the heart with which they were said. They don't talk about spiritual word battles on the internet, haha. Even when they try to deny it, you don't back down. It's having the huevos to call a duck a duck, and tell it to back the hell off.

    However, with people who don't understand, you cut ties. You can call them on their shit first lol, but they're not going to get it like the person who knows about speaking things onto others.

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    1. True. I come from a very dysfunctional family with a history of abuse. I know that this is a dark secret for a lot of families. I call it the scapegoat scenario, where a family will target one person they believe is different and that person will be abuse practially their whole lives. It makes the other family members feel better about themselves to the detriment of the victim. Among wolves this is standard behavior associated with the Omega wolf, where the other pack members will abuse, even seriously injure the Omega wolf in order to let off steam. Eventually the Omega wolf will either die from this abuse or realize that in order to survive it must abandon the pack. So rule of thumb...don't be an Omega wolf or get the hell out and escape with your life, self-esteem and sanity.

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    2. True, and even in less serious scenerios, there are certain times when people might try to pull that. For instance, there are people who are generally always bitter, and others who go through a rough patch and try to take it out on others during that time. And, knowing you're nice or polite or whathaveyou, they'll try to pull that. (However, with my family the issues are usually racial.)

      I have a few relatives who are this way because I tend to be quiet around them. So, they believe that I'm too nice to say anything back, and usually I am. But the situation is totally different when you see people for what they are. Not to say that their words won't ever affect you, but when people you love and value abuse you it's a little harder to not take their words with some measure of seriousness. When you know what they are and why they're doing it, it's a lot easier to dismiss. Even still, it's better to keep your distance.

      Best wishes, hun!

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    3. lol Sorry to be long winded about this, but also work pertaining to forgiveness is helpful. It's not good to carry those feelings around. Even if you address these matters from the position of reversal, it's good to also deal with getting over the anger and frustration you may be holding in your own heart. It's not good for you, and even that will "cross you up" in a manner of speaking as well. See it for what it is and forgive it. "Happy people don't do that" was the understanding I came up with. So, it did make it easier for me when I ran into bitter individuals. On the other hand, I've never really been the Omega wolf either. I have been mistaken for one though. :-)

      And if you know they're still at it, don't have them talking stuff up in your life. We don't stand for that, papa. You tell them just as plain as day that they're not going to do it. And if you need to, you tell them no good comes to evil. Good luck!

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  3. Just to add... it's often not even something as drastic as "you should die". When people are really speaking stuff on you it's usually something more snide... catty... to tell you something will fail, something bad will happen, or that something isn't good enough. And, it's said with pointed malice, resentment, and/or envy despite any smile on their face. You'll know lol.

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    1. The pros can say just one word, or even just make a sigh or noise or roll the eyes right. However, I know people who have the ability to point or make hand gestures that will cause a lot of stuff to stick on you.

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  4. I really am glad you wrote about this. I know they have an impact but I never really thought of the negative words of others as a "curse".. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

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  5. "sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me"...only if you let it...and unfortunately they do for people...i'm sorry, doc, that you had to endure this type of abuse from your family...me, too...from my grandmother and mother...i was always told i wasn't pretty enough for anything (to be a flight attendant, to marry certain men, etc.)...what kind of bullshit is this that your own family have to treat you like this?...my mother is dead now but grandmother is still alive...i have cut off all ties with her but her words still sting to this day...

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  6. I agree. Told I was fat, ugly, stupid, wouldn't amount to much and it affects me to this day

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  7. being a victim of abuse (physical, mental, verbal) I was told I wasn't anything even a b**** by my abuser so much that I started to believe it and even though he's out of my life I feel better about myself there are times when the though rises to question myself and my worth...I read somewhere else that verbal cursing can be damaged not sure where but you are dead on this does have an effect...people take in a lot in what is said...

    also I have had many things I have said come to manifest so I tend to watch what I say and therefore believe also because sometimes if you tend to lean toward believing in something in the negative it will manifest more than something in the positive because we put so much emotion/energy into that negative manifestation that we don't even realize it..

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  8. I'm glad you wrote this, but sorry you had to experience it. My son's sperm donor was a verbal abuser. In fact after I left I told him I wish he had just hit me because a bruise goes away and the words are harder to make go away. Plus it made my depression worse.(I had it to begin with before I met him and was at a very low just about rock bottom.) I was told I was a dumbass, stupid, etc. etc. etc!! Oh but I took care of it and left and sent it away and even blocked it thank goodness. Blessings to you Doc.

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  9. Hi Doc

    Cut and Clear serves to remove any harmful link to the person, or just emotional ties to a person?
    As you know the latter is the only thing spoken on the web and hence my question.

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    1. The term "cut and clear" seems to have been invented by Catherine Yronwode for her oils and such that she sells.

      I use the old term of 'clearance'. Clearance work is only used to completely remove a person, bad habit, etc., from your life so that you can make a fresh start.

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